My wife wouldn't stop crying...
I bailed him out last night....I'm gonna try again, but this time, I'm trying a different approach. Instead of being the bullheaded dad, I'm trying to talk to him like a true friend would. Me and the wife talked this over long and hard. It was my decision to bail him out. I think there are things I can do to stand him up on his own two feet.
I crunched #'s with him last night while we talked. McDonalds pays him $820 a month. I'll be taking a much more pro-active and positive roll towards getting him his GED. I'll also be standing beside him when he goes before the judge and asks that his charges be dropped if he were to join the Army or Navy. I seriously think he can change his ways with more support from me and a little guidance. He asked me a million questions about the military last night when I brought up the subject. We will be talking to a recruiter this week---Army and Navy. He likes the idea of coming home to $10K sitting in the bank after a tour at sea.
He's a lot like me, likes expesive/finer things....will the military make him rich? I think we all know the answer to that. But it will stand him up on his own two feet and give him a paycheck ever two weeks. A paycheck that is about twice what he makes a month at Mickey D's---plus he don't have to pay for room and board.
When I said he's a lot like me, I was in his shoes---but MUCH better at not getting caught. I was also completely Evil at his age....drugs, booze, stealing, selling drugs....you name it. The Marine Corps is what I needed, I'm hoping that the recruiter can put together those words my son wants to hear so he will join up and see that there is so much more to life than hanging with his friends, working at McD's here in El Paso, Texas.
I know I said I wouldn't bail him out, but I'm not ready to throw in the towel. I love the kiddo, and I will see if I can't get him on an even keel.
As always, thanks for the encouragement and kind words....they help more than I can tell any of you who keep up with my saga. Thank You.
I need a nice long ride on the 14....and back it up with a nice ride on the 12....between you guys and my bikes, this is the absolute best therapy.