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post #76 of 82 Old 11-18-2006, 09:21 AM Thread Starter
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My wife wouldn't stop crying...

I bailed him out last night....I'm gonna try again, but this time, I'm trying a different approach. Instead of being the bullheaded dad, I'm trying to talk to him like a true friend would. Me and the wife talked this over long and hard. It was my decision to bail him out. I think there are things I can do to stand him up on his own two feet.

I crunched #'s with him last night while we talked. McDonalds pays him $820 a month. I'll be taking a much more pro-active and positive roll towards getting him his GED. I'll also be standing beside him when he goes before the judge and asks that his charges be dropped if he were to join the Army or Navy. I seriously think he can change his ways with more support from me and a little guidance. He asked me a million questions about the military last night when I brought up the subject. We will be talking to a recruiter this week---Army and Navy. He likes the idea of coming home to $10K sitting in the bank after a tour at sea.

He's a lot like me, likes expesive/finer things....will the military make him rich? I think we all know the answer to that. But it will stand him up on his own two feet and give him a paycheck ever two weeks. A paycheck that is about twice what he makes a month at Mickey D's---plus he don't have to pay for room and board.

When I said he's a lot like me, I was in his shoes---but MUCH better at not getting caught. I was also completely Evil at his age....drugs, booze, stealing, selling drugs....you name it. The Marine Corps is what I needed, I'm hoping that the recruiter can put together those words my son wants to hear so he will join up and see that there is so much more to life than hanging with his friends, working at McD's here in El Paso, Texas.

I know I said I wouldn't bail him out, but I'm not ready to throw in the towel. I love the kiddo, and I will see if I can't get him on an even keel.

As always, thanks for the encouragement and kind words....they help more than I can tell any of you who keep up with my saga. Thank You.

I need a nice long ride on the 14....and back it up with a nice ride on the 12....between you guys and my bikes, this is the absolute best therapy.
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wow, I haven't been back to this site for a while.

I think your son and mine are the same person. mine is in another program, his last one. from now on its grown up time. if my son gets in any trouble after this and gets thrown in jail, he is SOL. I don't have the money to bail him out of anything.

mine was talking about finishing high school, he got out of a program 2 weeks before school went to school for a week, got in school detention (which was in violation of probation) then went out and got high (yep, another violation), didn't go to his PO meeting (another, seeing a trend?), then ran away from home. this all happened in 2 days.

just self destructive.

good luck with your situation.

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thanks Zed...as far as I know, my son isn't into the drug scene.


Now, fishing his ass out of trouble is another issue. I talked to a good friend who is a recruiter out of Tuscon yesterday. Its going to be a bit tougher to get him in the military than I thought. I've got a lot of leg work to do.

Best of Luck Zed, my son is SOL if there is a next time too.
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Good luck, Jeff... U 2 zed...

Keep us posted occasionally... :) :)

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My oldest boy has been trouble-free for several years now. He's finally figuring out that the path he took was just a HUGE detour on his road to success. He's got a Beautiful fiance that keeps him on his toes. Hopefully he will stay on track.

Now for my 22 year old...that's a different story. He got himself kicked out of the Marines with a Other than Honorable Discharge...no bennies, no unemployment<----All self-inflicted.
He had 5 weeks left on a 5 year contract, and he would have gotten out with all benefits. It is what it is. Now he has a DUI in San Diego he gets to figure out as an unemployed civilian.

The youngest is still in Oklahoma trying to figure out what he is going to do with himself...he's slowly figuring out that life is fuggin' rough, and just how good they had it.

Life, what a crazy, crazy place. Luckily for me, they are all healthy and keeping in touch with me....and still asking for my advice(yes, money too). Makes me feel kinda important as this Father's Day is right around the corner.

Think I will give my Dad a call.

Thanks again to everyone who has offered advice and insight over the years. It's helped me out in ways that I just can't ever repay.
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Thanks for the update, Jeff... It sounds like life's a mixed bag for you right now; just like it is for many of us!!

I'm still hoping your younger son will come to appreciate the opportunities he had - and mebby will try again to get back with the program... But whatever the outcome, we as fathers have to realize that we can't do everything for our kids - They will have to eventually make their own way - Whatever that is...

FWIW - I think you get extra points for working much of the program "by remote control"... Obviously your wife shares the honors... :thumbup

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Thanks, Mike.
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