first of all I want to say Thank you to the gracious offers and kind words of encouragement.
2nd. The boys just need more attention. I used to find myself coming home sitting on the computer and ignoring the fact that my kids need attention. they would come in to talk about their day, and I'd kinda half ass listen. I used to raise hell, cuss, and scream, fget in their face boot canp style...and I wondered why they were acting the way they were? they were reacting, not acting.
Since my boys came back from Tennessee this summer, I've made changes. For me, big changes.
My oldest(17) still thinks he can do nothing and bail out when he turns 18 next August. I've gone to the school to get his classes straight and he attend tutuoring 4 days a week. He's doing better.
My angry 15 year old has decidided that he wants to be on the swim team. the 'losers' he hung with last year are on the HS football and Baseball team. Football I could care less about because the Coach SUCKS. Baseball hurt me, my son is GREAT at baseball and he loves it. He made the decision to stop running with those bad ass kids and join the swim team. Now every Friday my entire family attends his swim meets. He just happens to have the best report card he's had since elementery school!!!
I guess what I'm getting at is that you can't expect the kids to do what they are suppossed to unless you show them and guide them in a positive way. When I need to run to the store, i take them, no matter what. I've started teaching them how to study. we sit down around the kitchen table and study EVERY night. Instead of going to races by myself, they go with. When I go to watch the game, they go with me. Those are the rules. If you get in trouble, you do PT...Period.
Recently, my sis-n-law and her 3 kids have moved in....they will be staying for awhile. My nieces and nephews are starved for attention to. I make my sis get up with them every morning and help with their homework. I'm not going to make the same mistake, or allow her to make the same mistakes I have.
In the End, I was the one to blame. I just hope anyone who reads this can relate and find something useful that may help. If you need any assistance with troublesome teens or bad grades, post here and I will tell you what I did that help. Thanks for reading, and thanks for helping.
Go ahead, Lie2me....