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post #16 of 82 Old 05-31-2005, 04:33 AM Thread Starter
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I tried it for awhile, but like i said, all it does is piss the 15 year old off and the 16 does absolutely nothing. my 11 year old son still thinks that i will spank him, so he's quick to straighten up.
I agree with you Go, I know where to draw the line, this is why I choose not to spank the two oldest. I'm obviously no weakling, and my sons bruise very easily. I've worked and been thru tooooo much shit to get kicked out of the military for beating my sons ass. not to mention, I will officially retire for the first time @ 39. Less than 5 years from now.
We are gonna work to get him back online and an "active ingredient" to my family recipe. It just kills me to see him act like such a punk, he's a good kid, just has issues....cant give up though, thats one thing i just cant do.

Spoiler, Its hard to explain, being disrespected in my own house by a 15/16 year old...its hard not to crush them, but I cant do it. I just dont get where my son LOST his respect for me. He wont do it again, and if he does, he's well aware of the consequences. He's got the mentality that he can actually whip my ass, fight anyone who disrespects him, thinks everything is 'unfair', thinks someone should be broken down for touching him....I swear to Goodness that he thinks he's "50 Cent" or Tu-Pac....

I was raised never to hit a woman, NEVER disrespect your parents, and take care of your family. To this day 34 years later, I've never hit a woman, NEVER disrespected(much less raise a hand too) my father & mother......always take care of my family/friends. I just dont understand where everything changed so quickly...
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I just dont understand where everything changed so quickly...
Welcome to Parenthood, Phase II... This is the part that isn't covered in the fancy brochure... :roll: :roll:

Lie2 - Just a random thought... Have you tried to get the boys riding?? A coupla dirtbikes & some rocky terrain have changed many lives here... I'm sure you can get some testimony!! :wink: :wink: It's just a thought...

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my wife and i have discussed it before, but not thought too seriously about it.....that would defintely give us more "family" time which I dont think we do near as much as we used to....I need to work on that. I'll keep it in mind. thanks, mike.
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lie2me,take the 15 & 16 year old to court.Have them declared "incouragable" by the judge. CPS will take them to the foster system. Problem solved. The 11 year old will learn from this. If parents don't do their job, the penal system will. Some kids are just shit. No amount of "rehabilitation", no amount of money will help them. These kids are out of control, they need a strap, not love & attention.
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he's been walking a straight line since i had him arrested(15 yr). He's still got the attitude, but he's holding his tongue and keeping his hands to himself. I'm still waiting to hear from the courts to see which avenue to take next.

My 16 yr old has figured that the rules change in august when he turns 17. He's doing very well, other than the normal teenage stuff whivh doesn't bother me.

I think the worst part is what you said about my 11 yr old, he sees the way they act and what my wife will put up with and he will push it...but he's still 11 and easy to keep in check when he acts up.

BTW, both my teenagers are going to grandmas house for a month this summer. Gramma has limited funds and lives out in the woods in Kentucky. No, I'm not off loading them on gramma :wink: , my family Ky are taking vacation while the boys are there. Hopefully a break from mom and dad will help them see how good it is at home. I know I can use a break.

thanks Norty, thats an option that I may have to use, but I hope it doesn't come to that.
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hey buddy

Hey hate to bother you. I was just wondering where your family lives in Ky?? My wife and I are close and if you needed anything we are more than happy to help you out in any way. If they need some one to talk to or just someone to spend a little time with. We are both firefighters and sometimes kids like that kinda thing. Anywho.......just wanted to let you know if you need Stef and I you can call us at anytime. 859-509-1435. We have two girls 10 and 4. Hope they turn out like their mom. :roll: Hope everything turns out OK. Good Luck


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PS I know you dont know us from Adam, but we are not bad people I dont think. :D :shock: :shock:

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Lex, I'm very very appreciative of your offer, and theank you very much. My boys will be staying in "the Woods" a few miles outside of Clarksville, Tn/Hopkinsville,KY(Fort Campbell). My mother in law and my sister in law are taking time off to hang out with my boys for a few weeks this summer. They will get a good dose of how good they got it at home. No video games, internet, etc, etc,...

thank you again for the offer, I'm humbled to the fact that there are still such great people out there willing to help, especially in the only forum I hang out at.

thanks to all!!!
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Jeff - 2 things:

1) I can vouch for Jerrod & Stefanie... Good folks you'd be happy to have in your home... :wink: :wink:

2) I'm about equidistant from Hopkinsville, KY (18 miles) & Clarksville, TN (25 miles)... If you need anything, make a noise.

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hadnt seen this thread before today, good luck man, hope you find some way of motivating them before intervention by the court system is no longer "by choice".

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thanks again. they seem to be doing fine. I swapped my 11 year old niece for my two teens for a few weeks. I will be up that way(if i can get time off work) to pick them up later this summer. We'll see. Hopefully, they will both be a bit humbled from the experience....{fingers crossed}.

Damn, it sure is quiet in my house...no arguing, no attitudes,...peaceful. I think the biggest thing those boys need is what they are getting now. A change of scenery...not the detention center :wink: and a break from being in dads hair...not that i have much(pulled most of it out :D ), but you know what I mean.
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I will be up that way(if i can get time off work) to pick them up later this summer. We'll see.
If you make it out here, make sure you lemme know!! We'll roast a watermelon er sumpin'!! :wink: :wink:

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What the hell is roastin' watermelon? :wink:
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What the hell is roastin' watermelon? :wink:
Um..... If I have to explain it, you wouldn't understand!!

Let's just say this: It has to do with cold beer, & there's no watermelons involved!! :wink: :wink:

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now I will rub the lotion on its skin :oops:
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If you get out this way call me and maybe I can ride down and meet you guys. Its about 3 hrs, but I'll ride that far to meet some guys from this forum. maybe Stef will be able to ride down with me. I would love to see the guys a Duke's again.

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